Archives for the month of: October, 2015

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When I write a blog it is always started by something someone has said, an article I’ve read, something I’ve seen on Facebook, events around me or a mixture of them all.

Quite often I listen to a song I haven’t heard for a while which makes me think. Recently I heard ‘Something inside so Strong’ by Labi Siffre (seen above), he was on the One Show recently talking about his personal struggle being black and gay, he channelled this struggle into lyrics and created this powerful and successful song. Words I’m sure that resonate with a lot of people for many different reasons….

Deny my place in time, you squander wealth that’s mine
My light will shine so brightly, it will blind you ’cause there’s

Something inside so strong
I know that I can make it
But you’re doing me wrong so wrong
You thought that my pride was gone
Oh, no, something inside so strong
theres something inside so strong

Labi Siffre – Something Inside So Strong Lyrics | MetroLyrics

There are times for all of us when our lives becomes a struggle, happiness is harder to reach, a daily struggle and it feels difficult to escape from our dramas. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with your own problems and forget other people are dealing with their problems too. Listening to the song above about inner strength made me think, even in difficult times our inner strength can support us even if some of us don’t realise it yet.

I take inspiration from those who have realised they have the passion and ability to turn around a negative into a positive. Kris Hallenga is one of those people, in 2009 at the age of 23 she was diagnosed with stage 4 (there is no stage 5) Breast Cancer and now runs an amazing charity aimed at creating awareness of Breast Cancer in young people: coppafeel.org

“Kris turned her shock and anger into pure kick–ass, immediately making it her full–time mission to encourage her friends, her generation, and YOUNG PEOPLE everywhere to keep hold of their wonderful, carefree lives by getting to know their boobs – and appreciating the fact that, shitty a reality as it may be, breast cancer can affect YOUNG PEOPLE, at any age. A message overlooked by breast cancer organisations.”

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Cancer seems to have this effect,  it ignites a fight and determination in you didn’t even know you had, out of many disasters great things have been started. The confidence and inner strength of others helps Breast Cancer to get the excellent exposure we see today. Another good example of this empowerment is the #show your scar campaign on Twitter for breast cancer. To mark Breast Cancer Awareness Month this October, the women seen below appeared topless and proudly showed their scars to the world, shown here in an article by Elizabeth Earle this week in ‘The Sun‘.

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Many reasons cause us to lose our confidence; not just Cancer, however there will be a point for us all our inner strength will kick in and support us and lead us to a better place. For those who are not there yet we can take inspiration from Kris and the women shown above, it may not be possible to fix your problems but we can do something positive with it, be it something big creating awareness or starting with small steps that allow us to smile again. It may take you a while but your time will come and you will shine again!

My love always

Angela

xxx

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Photo: My mum and dad very very many years ago..

I have just spent a lovely weekend celebrating a school friends 40th Birthday party, catching up with my old school friends complete with our neon accessories and leg warmers for her 80’s themed night. She is the first in my school year to celebrate and there are many more to follow, mine will be in April next year…  judging by this weekends party I need to start planning as I have much to live up to. As yet I don’t feel a mid-life crisis coming, no need it seems life crisis’ find me whether I like it or not, so no need to buy the red sports car just yet, or embark on a new exciting relationship? Oops correction have already started this one!

Last week October 4th was the anniversary of our school friend who sadly lost his battle to cancer 2 years ago, so a bottle of prossecco was opened at saturday’s party in his memory and we all danced to 2 of his favourite songs on the dance floor, an emotional anniversary for us to remember and time to reflect on our own lives.

October also starts with my wedding anniversary which this year was strange as obviously it is not a date I wish to celebrate but nether less it is still a date that is remembered so does it still count as being called an anniversary? Some people and times we wish to remember and others we prefer to forget, when it comes to my marriage recent unhappy years I choose to forget but I look back at my wedding day fondly and remember that sense of optimism and excitement that I had starting out on married life. We both had every intention of growing old together and having one of those 60th wedding anniversary parties that older couples have, unfortunately we became a lot of  ‘worse’ and eventually no ‘better’ so it became time for us both to move on.

“Some lives leave a mark, others leave a stain…” Charles Saatchi

It seems we all have events in our lives that every year we choose to remember in our own way, an anniversary is very much about remembering if not necessarily celebrating, there are many dates in the year that we remember some are happy ones and some not so much. Tomorrow is October the 13th this was the day that 9 years ago I was first diagnosed with Breast Cancer, good as its 9 years but current complications make me feel uneasy about celebrating that fact, I reserve my judgement for the moment.

One particular anniversary is like a dark cloud forming around mid October time that often comes up behind me before I realise the time is when my mum was diagnosed as terminally ill with cancer and had only a few months to live. I’m not the only one to have dates in my life that test our ability to deal with the emotions they bring, however it seems I am also not alone in this year forgetting this anniversary and it almost passing me by without my recognition. This is the first time in 17 years this has happened and I feel guilty just like the husband who forgot his wedding anniversary, I have been distracted with the better things happening in my life but I am sure my mum would forgive me just the once. It seems as time passes the bad things are remembered less and overtaken by the good and happy memories, less the date she died and more the date she was born.

The Fallen Limb, by Poet Unknown:

A limb has fallen from the family tree.
I keep hearing a voice that says, “Grieve not for me.
Remember the best times, the laughter, the song.
The good life I lived while I was strong.
Continue my heritage, I’m counting on you.
Keep smiling and surely the sun will shine through...

So fondly remember those important dates as people come and go in our lives, celebrating the good memories and raising a toast to the sad ones. Spend time creating new fun memories with those around us, our years will be full of anniversaries, as time goes on even more will be added. Decisions need to made.. a party?, a holiday?, afternoon tea? spa break? expensive dinner?. I really should start saving for my 40th birthday…

Love Always

Angela xx

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