The experience of living with cancer the past 10 years has taught me not to try and control my life or the situations that may arise only my reactions to it. How are you? Is the question that I’m asked everyday. My life has changed completely, I cannot see into the future or give you any answers as to if or when I will be better, I can only focus on what is around me and how I feel at the moment. Life does not always deal us what we expect but it is how we deal with it that makes us. There are positives to be found in every situation when we remember who we are…

No more is this true than this morning, I have woke to hear we are leaving the EU. The media has gone into meltdown, the Prime Minister has put forward his resignation. Panic is starting to set in, is it the end of a life as we know it? Things may get worse before we get better? So today the question is How are we?

“We all have a responsibility to now seek to heal the divisions that have emerged throughout this campaign – and to focus on that which unites us, rather than that which divides us.” London Mayor

I do love the fact the topic has been much discussed by all, igniting passions on both sides of the argument.  At a recent kids party while off to play laser tag the children were oblivious to the fact their mums were sitting around discussing which way to vote, an intelligent and civilised debate with most of us undecided or not wanting to commit, but we are all united in caring about the result, with a 70% turnout emotions are running high nationally too. I remember my mum every time a vote happened would tell the story of the suffrogettes and burning bras and how lucky a girl is to have a vote so yes mum I did vote yesterday, only deciding though as I put the pencil to paper.

The result to leave the EU is a brave and bold one, and one that most of us did not expect, rather amusingly including The Sun newspaper’s early first edition paper this morning with the wrong result. It seems it is time to leave the comfort and security of the Parents house and go it alone, to be independent, saying goodbye to our old life in exchange for a new challenge, only time will tell if this is the right thing to do.

“The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” Socrates

Learning lessons from my own life receiving changing news you do not expect, I will be looking to the positives and hoping that we will not be defined by this result but as a nation continue to be united and recognised as the compassionate, intelligent and creative country we have become. In the same way that I wish not to be seen as ‘Cancer’ but for my strength of personality and compassion and of course my gorgeous looks (ok I may be pushing it a little bit!!). We cannot change the decision, see into the future or have any answers as to if life will be better or worse. We can love all those around us while we focus on our strengths and negotiate the road ahead. To use a popular phrase in my house… ‘Hopefully we will be fine’

Love always

Angela xx