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When I write a blog it is always started by something someone has said, an article I’ve read, something I’ve seen on Facebook, events around me or a mixture of them all.

Quite often I listen to a song I haven’t heard for a while which makes me think. Recently I heard ‘Something inside so Strong’ by Labi Siffre (seen above), he was on the One Show recently talking about his personal struggle being black and gay, he channelled this struggle into lyrics and created this powerful and successful song. Words I’m sure that resonate with a lot of people for many different reasons….

Deny my place in time, you squander wealth that’s mine
My light will shine so brightly, it will blind you ’cause there’s

Something inside so strong
I know that I can make it
But you’re doing me wrong so wrong
You thought that my pride was gone
Oh, no, something inside so strong
theres something inside so strong

Labi Siffre – Something Inside So Strong Lyrics | MetroLyrics

There are times for all of us when our lives becomes a struggle, happiness is harder to reach, a daily struggle and it feels difficult to escape from our dramas. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with your own problems and forget other people are dealing with their problems too. Listening to the song above about inner strength made me think, even in difficult times our inner strength can support us even if some of us don’t realise it yet.

I take inspiration from those who have realised they have the passion and ability to turn around a negative into a positive. Kris Hallenga is one of those people, in 2009 at the age of 23 she was diagnosed with stage 4 (there is no stage 5) Breast Cancer and now runs an amazing charity aimed at creating awareness of Breast Cancer in young people: coppafeel.org

“Kris turned her shock and anger into pure kick–ass, immediately making it her full–time mission to encourage her friends, her generation, and YOUNG PEOPLE everywhere to keep hold of their wonderful, carefree lives by getting to know their boobs – and appreciating the fact that, shitty a reality as it may be, breast cancer can affect YOUNG PEOPLE, at any age. A message overlooked by breast cancer organisations.”

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Cancer seems to have this effect,  it ignites a fight and determination in you didn’t even know you had, out of many disasters great things have been started. The confidence and inner strength of others helps Breast Cancer to get the excellent exposure we see today. Another good example of this empowerment is the #show your scar campaign on Twitter for breast cancer. To mark Breast Cancer Awareness Month this October, the women seen below appeared topless and proudly showed their scars to the world, shown here in an article by Elizabeth Earle this week in ‘The Sun‘.

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Many reasons cause us to lose our confidence; not just Cancer, however there will be a point for us all our inner strength will kick in and support us and lead us to a better place. For those who are not there yet we can take inspiration from Kris and the women shown above, it may not be possible to fix your problems but we can do something positive with it, be it something big creating awareness or starting with small steps that allow us to smile again. It may take you a while but your time will come and you will shine again!

My love always

Angela

xxx

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All my life I’ve lived by the theory rely on no-one, be independent, be the strong one and look after yourself, as you get older and time goes on you do let some people in but never completely, keeping that level of trust at arms length to protect yourself from getting hurt. It is how I was brought up and has served me well in life keeping me out of harm’s way. But has it??

“The problem with being the strong one is no-one lends you a hand” M.T

Recently, someone came along and held my hand, showing me love and affection, it has allowed me to open up and share emotions that normally I would keep deep inside me and well hidden. A problem shared is a problem halved as they say, suddenly once you talk about something it seems it loses its sense of importance and its affect on you. Even to the point where you start to feel a bit stupid that you let things bother you in the first place.

Also I find myself letting go of some of that independence and dare I say it stubborness! Working together and accepting help when it is offered really does make life easier, and saying thank you instead of justifying why you should do it instead. This does not extend to the washing up though it seems nobody likes this job even if the dishwasher is involved, I know that I certainly don’t. ‘Reluctant to engage in housework’ has even been written in the divorce petition I recently received from my soon to be ex-husband. I have to say that I’m actually quite proud of that one….

The strength to stop listening to what I should be doing, and think about what I want to be doing. Indulging in good times with friends, family and loved ones, free to enjoy without guilt. The indulging part needs to have less calories now, it seems that ‘Eton mess cheesecake’ with raspberries is not very good for the waistline the fruit doesn’t count? So maybe not a life completely without guilt then.. but that indulgence was worth every mouthful!

Just something as simple as the act of holding hands to show your affection, ‘The way your fingers intertwine with another person’s is both innocent and special.”  apparentlySea otters do it. Penguins do it. Even elephants do it, albeit they have to use their trunks.” Did you know otters hold hands while they sleep so they don’t float apart…

I could conquer the world with one hand as long as your holding the other.     — Megan Smith

I am starting to realise how much I have been holding myself back, time to lose the negatives and free up the space to let in the positives. I’ve had the bad to appreciate the good and seen the sad to be able to enjoy the happy. My journey is not a simple one but worth every minute just to feel loved and protected from all the trouble that is in my world.

Stand by my side, hold my hand tight while I hold yours, to love is as important as being loved, it keeps my heart strong and my smile bright…

Thank you

Angela xxx

 

 



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