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imageForget the boring rubbish today I’m not interested I’m going to spoil myself and be greedy, selfish… The toys have left the pram no one is gonna stop me….

I am gonna buy those shoes that I saw yesterday that I can’t justify I am not going to clean the fish tank, I am sitting on my sofa this afternoon with ‘Outlander’ now that I have finally caught up with the rest of the world and discovered Amazon prime on the smart TV.

This morning I am starting with indulging in all my less than attractive qualities and yes that would be best described as grumpy with sadness thrown in for good measure. I spoke to my oncologist last night and the results are in it is confirmed that my cancer has returned after 9 years, I am less than amused! Best throw in angry and pissed off too.

a biopsy will confirm which treatments they want to give me but looks like this will be long term hobby, time to play the dutiful part-time patient again. It’s been a long time since I was here and surprisingly I feel stronger this time my life is in a good place, there are now many positive distractions showing me this will not takeover and consume my life this time.

Get through today and then that’s enough sulking nobody likes a winger back to life and I will be doing all those treats and trips and dinners and excuses for fun that normally you can not justify or even just having an excuse to down tools. I think it would be a good start to actually get out of bed first though once this post is done…

My emotions are spent I do not comprehend which way they are going today my brain hurts, who knows how the people around me even start to understand this roller coaster. One medicine I am sure of is the power of love and touch. Knowing you are cared about makes all the difference, the hugs, flowers, the cake, the best wishes all put a big smile back on my face and I feel indulged and spoilt thanks.

I have one final emotion to deal with one of the most important women in my world… My mum who lost her battle and died over 17 years ago of secondary bone cancer she was my world and my rock. Words do not describe how much I miss you, even more so today.

Enough now back to the real world I have shoes to buy and really need to feed the cat!!! nails book for 11… Spoil me it is then. You can’t keep a good girl down for long…

Love always

Angela

xx

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It’s time now to let go of the idea that I have any control over my life and to go wherever it takes me. To keep those that I love close and to keep showing them how much I care about them. This week started so well an amazing lunch by the sea with good friends, relaxing and happy. Followed by some fun kids time with an inflatable day at my daughters school we set up for about 500 kids again in the sun. Nicely finished off by dinner out with loved ones. Life is going well, I’m surrounded by some amazing people  who I love and who offer the same unconditional love and care in return.

Then one of very many scans I’ve had over 9 years came back with a few abnormalities this week.  Ok that’s not disastrous just needs more detailed tests right? Until I started getting a few aches with it and told my oncologist this. She has always been very paranoid with me the slightest hint of anything and they are down on me like a ton of bricks, looks like I’m gonna get a houseful of them in the next few weeks! A big dose of steroids on Tuesday an urgent MRI on Wednesday and results confirmed 2 hours later i have a small amount of secondary bone cancer in the top of my spine with a lymph node infected in my neck. Turns out the tamoxifen that has served me so well the last 9 years is no longer doing its job so well. So here we go again get the pic and mix of drugs and treatments out time for a shake up, time to try something new. A bit of radiotherapy, new hormone tablets maybe throw in a bone strengthener! Oh and a pet scan and biopsy ok I can deal with that I trust the people around me to do their best for me. Just don’t expect me to enjoy it…

Where to start??? From sitting there at diagnosis with my boyfriend, speaking  to my dad? 1 hour conversations with friends on the phone checking to see how I am? My daughter was 1 last time I had to deal with any of this she is now nearly 10 and very much more aware of what’s happening. I am negotiating this new territory as best I can but I suspect this will be the biggest hurdle of all to help her with many emotions she doesn’t understand and let’s face it neither do I. What is just plain annoying though is I was supposed to be on a plane and a beach this weekend enjoying the warm sunshine with an amazing man who came into my life 3 months ago. The care and love we have enjoyed together the last few months has been inspiring, Allowing my confidence and character to return back to its full strength thank you. Sorry it looks like our fun plans will be a bit smaller for a while, good excuse to up the budget though later as we deserve it.

I have no idea what the next few months has planned for me some great, some not so great probably. I put my faith in the hands of my care team and will do as I’m told. Surrounded by all the people I love who know some days this will wind me up and I may use the odd swear word here and there. But most of the time I prefer to enjoy myself with others and indulge in the normal madness of our  day to day lifes to some loud music and remember nobody knows what the future holds. Time for cake and maybe even a cheeky spa break!!!

 

Love Angela xx

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Great highs, the depths of the lows and why at age 7 do I still have to remind my daughter to say please!

Great highs, the depths of the lows and why at age 7 do I still have to remind my daughter to say please!

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